One of the most important things that I believe contribute to someone’s personal success is the quality of their tribe. Your tribe is who you surround yourself with – your support system, your cheerleaders, your tough-love givers, and your shoulders to cry on. Without a tribe, life can be even harder to get through.
So how do you figure out who your tribe is?
Your first step is looking at your current tribe. Are the people you are currently surrounding yourself with there to support you and encourage you? Are they pushing you to be the best version of yourself that you can be? If not, you may want to rethink their place in your tribe.
I know some of those friends have been around forever so they’re comforting – but if they’re not the best influence for you, your best option is to cut them loose. There is no point in holding onto any relationship that isn’t helping you move forward. And while it can be hard, it will ultimately help you become a better person by getting rid of the negative energy that they bring into your life.
After cutting any loose ends that you might need to, your next step is to begin building your dream tribe. Be sure you’re keeping and adding positive, uplifting and inspirational people – because after all, who you surround yourself with becomes a reflection of who you are.
Some good people to have in your tribe (and in your corner) are friends outside of work, friends at work, mentors, people you look up to, people you turn to for advice, and maybe someone who you consider a spiritual leader if you tend to be a religious person.
These people will build you up, encourage you, give you advice, tell you to suck it up when you need to hear it most, and lift you up when you’re down. Every single person in your tribe should be rooting for your success and happiness.
As someone who has taken the past year to refine and establish my tribe, I can say that it makes the biggest difference. Surrounding yourself with people who see the good in everything, people who stay positive in even the worst of times, makes you realize that good quality people make your life so much better.
Misery may love company, but success loves a good tribe. So who’s in yours?