Lately, I’ve been trying to stay away from technology for at least 45 minutes before bed. Mainly, staying away from my phone. Sometimes it means putting away my laundry or setting out my things for the next day, but most of the time it means hopping into bed and reading a few chapters of the latest book I’m reading. And since I absolutely loved my most recent read, I wanted to share.
Have any of you heard of ‘Girl, Wash Your Face’ by Rachel Hollis? Anyone? Well, if you haven’t, you should definitely get it. Here’s why.
It was written by Rachel Hollis, the creator of the lifestyle blog, The Chic Site, and it’s about all of the lies that we tell ourselves on the regular. And let me tell you – it hits hard. Rachel really dives into a few issues that I didn’t even know I had.
My favorite, without a doubt, is one of the first chapters of the book where she addresses the lie of “I’ll start tomorrow.” I am the QUEEN of this lie. I am a serial procrastinator and actually quite skilled at avoiding things that I don’t really want to do, so I found this chapter incredibly insightful. (And I also felt a little bit attacked for how much it rang true.) But honestly guys, be real – we’re all guilty of this lie. And most of the times, we’re telling this lie to ourselves.
Would we bail on our families, on our friends, as often as we bail on ourselves? Would we even want to be friends with people who treated us like we treat ourselves? Probably not. So why do we continue to lie to ourselves? We should be making ourselves a priority in our lives, just as much as we put our families and friends as priorities. This means starting that diet today instead of “waiting til tomorrow” (or worse, Monday), and hopping on the treadmill right now instead of “in the morning.” Since reading this chapter, I’ve realized just how much I lie to myself, and I definitely don’t like it.
The most surprising chapter to me was the one where Rachel talks about the lie of “I need to make myself smaller.” I was shocked that this chapter resonated with me as much as it did. From the get-go, I had figured this chapter was about weight, but Rachel was actually pointing out being small in the sense of our personalities and presences. It made me evaluate the way I had grown up – had I been taught to be small? The short answer is yes.
Keep to yourself.
Don’t do that.
How many times had I been told how to act? How many times had my personality and my presence been squashed? As it turns out, it was too many to count. A lifetime of being told what to do makes it hard to believe that there are even choices you can make for yourself. A lifetime of not being whatever enough time after time, all rolled together, makes you feel like you’re not good enough. And that makes it hard to have confidence – in anything. So you resort to forcing yourself to do what you’re told and fit in, which forces you to become smaller. My personality and my presence had been molded to be small, all without me knowing it.
I’ve spent a lot of time in my early 20’s trying to “fix” what I thought was just a not-right personality, but now I’ve realized is all the ways I had been taught to be small. So now I’m trying something new.
I’m speaking up.
I’m taking chances.
I’m standing up for myself.
I’m making myself known.
Ultimately this chapter taught me that while it’s okay to blend in sometimes or stay below the radar, it’s never okay to make yourself smaller.
I could go on and on about all the other chapters of this book, but seriously, you guys have to get it. It’s a game-changer. You can find it here. And while you’re waiting for it in the mail, really think about it – what lies have you been telling yourself?